Frequently Asked Questions

You must provide valid identification and other personal information in order to request an appointment for a session. This is for your safety and mine, and for legal reasons.

I will use your I.D. only to verify that you are who you say you are, that you are of legal age to engage in consensual, non-sexual BDSM-related activities that include nudity.

I will use your employment (e.g., LinkedIn) and references only to verify that you do not work in a profession such as law enforcement that can cause issues for me or for you. I engage only in legal activities, but unfortunately that has not stopped over-zealous or unscrupulous cops, district attorneys or politicians from persecuting professionals. Please understand that these measures are necessary to reduce the risk of problems.

Your personal information is 100% confidential and will never be divulged to anyone per my privacy policy. All of your collected personal information is encrypted for enhanced security.

I understand that a session with me is sensitive for a lot of people and you might be concerned that your name will be "leaked" or that family, friends or colleagues might find out about it. 

It's really not much different than seeing a doctor for a sensitive issue. I treat your privacy with the utmost respect. My promise to you is that no one will hear about you from me, ever. Please see the Mutual Discretion page to set your mind at ease.

You must apply to become a client and to book sessions online. The general process is:

1. Read all the information on my website. Think about what you are looking for from our session so you can give me an idea (if you can) beforehand.
2. Complete the Client Application. This includes a form that asks about you and your desires, previous experience, and what you are looking for. The survey takes about 30-60 minutes to complete. Be as detailed and forthright as you can and remember there are no wrong answers. Your responses are 100% confidential.
3. I will review your Client Application. I might email you to ask for more information (please provide an email address that only you have access to.)
4. If I think you would be a good fit for my services, I will invite you to complete a Booking Request at which point you can choose a date, time and duration for your session. A Booking Deposit is required to schedule a session.
5. If I feel that I would not be a good fit for you, I will let you know so that you can look for what you desire elsewhere.

You can find more information on the How to Book page.

Yes, you may cancel your appointment if you change your mind. The booking despot is non-refundable subject to my payment policies.

Please know that It is 100% natural to feel nervous or anxious about a session with me, especially your first time when you have no real idea of what to expect. It happens to everyone. I encourage you to keep your appointment. You won't be disappointed.

If you are having second-thoughts, feel free to reach out to me and let me know your thoughts. I might be able to assuage your concerns or help you change the nature of your session to make you feel more comfortable. My goal is your satisfaction; I want you to get everything that you desire from our time together.

Payments are due at different points in the booking process. See the Payments page for complete details and refund policies.

1. Application Fee – Due with your Client Application. This fee weeds out people who do not have funds nor any intention of following through with booking. This fee is non-refundable, and you only pay it one time.
2. Booking Deposit – Due after your application is approved when you book your appointment. It is applied toward your Session Fee.
3. Session Fee – The total fee for your session which includes the Booking Deposit.

You must pay all deposits and fees electronically using Cash App. See the Payments page for details.

You may tip with cash or  through Cash App.

Your Client Application Fee is not refundable.

Your Booking Fee might be applied to a rescheduled session based on the Payment Policy. 

If you do not show up for a session or reschedule within the rescheduling window, your full session fee will be forfeited.

For full details, please see the Payments page which has the final, binding policy.

Yes. Your Session Fee will not be pro-rated if you arrive late. At my discretion, and time permitting, I might try to accommodate you by extending your session if you have a legitimate reason.

Don't make a habit of disrespecting our time and expect that you will  be punished for it even with a good excuse.

If you wish to extend a future session, please do so through the Scheduling page and pay for the extended session at that time.

I might allow you to extend your session once it has started, time permitting (e.g., no client immediately after you). 

I prefer to not deal with or talk about money during a session as it takes away from your experience (FinDom subs excepted). Nevertheless, in this case you can  pay for your extended session with cash (place it in the tip folio on the credenza) or electronically on your phone with Cash App.

You must pay for the extended time before (not after) the extended time.

Absolutely.

It is customary to tip personal service providers, whether it's for your hairstylist, your masseuse, or in this case, your Dominant. How much you choose to tip is entirely up to you. Do not ask me, especially in the moment as it takes away from the personal atmosphere that I am working to create with you. Be as generous as you feel is warranted by my services to you.

Being liberal with your tips or gifts will not make me go any easier on you next time (sorry, not sorry), but I do appreciate those clients who show their appreciate so it might lead to more session rewards or priority scheduling.

The best time to tip is at the end of your session while you are getting dressed and preparing to leave. I prefer cash tips which you may leave in the payment folio on the credenza. You can also use Cash App if you must.

You will receive an email or text to confirm your booking time and date.

Shortly before your scheduled appointment you will receive an email or text with the location of the studio. 

Parking is available on the surrounding streets. Do not park in any of the nearby office building or commercial lots as it is not allowed and you risk being ticketed or towed.

Street sweeping happens on Mondays and Tuesdays on alternate sides. Be sure to pay attention to the No-Parking signs! The tickets are very expensive.

Wait in your car until about ten minutes before your scheduled session time and then go to the outside meeting point indicated in your confirmation. I will meet you there and bring you to the studio.

Avoid engaging with the neighbors. Since the studio is in a residential building, we want to avoid drawing any attention to it.

If you arrive early, do not wait outside the gate. Wait in your car until five minutes before your session time. This allows you to avoid interacting with neighbors and also affords yourself and other clients their privacy.

Of course if someone speaks to you in passing, feel free respond to a "hello," but do not talk about me, the studio, or what you are doing there. Try to keep it as short as possible and keep walking. This is not the time for idle chitchat.

It is 100% okay for you to bring a friend or partner for safety. They may not accompany you inside the studio for your session unless they are part of the session, and have been vetted like every other client.

Anyone who comes with you should wait in your car if they wish to stay as close as possible. There is a park a half mile away and a mall a mile away.

Your friend(s) should not loiter on the street, outside the front gate, or in the neighborhood (outside of your car).

What exactly happens at your first (or any) session depends a lot on you personally, what you tell me in your Client Application, what you are looking for, and what you ask for in a specific session.

In general though, I will meet you outside and escort you in to the studio. This is for your safety and comfort as it is less scary than going into a condominium building and ringing a stranger's doorbell.

I will ask you to show me your I.D. and to sign the waiver if you have not yet done so.

Typically, we will talk for a little bit before doing anything hands-on, during which I will ask you some questions and go over what to expect during your session. I will also review the rules and your limits, and make sure you understand how to communicate with me and how to use a safe word if you need to stop for any reason whatsoever.

We will then move on to the specifics of what you requested. You can relax and enjoy yourself. I will lead and guide you throughout the session, within the boundaries of your limits that you have perviously provided through your Client Application or the Booking Request. 

For solo sessions, you are welcome to have a friend or partner come with you to the session. Unless arranged and/or paid for in advance, they must wait in your car.

Please do not let them loiter around the front of the building or draw attention to themselves or to us as it might jeopardize my ability to keep the studio..

If you have booked a couples or group session and they are taking part in that, then of course they would be included.

You should never meet a stranger (myself included) without a safety plan especially for a service during which you are vulnerable.

This is so important, I created a separate Safety page. Be sure to read through it and follow my advice.

The BDSM services I offer are intimate in nature. The amount of your exposure depends on what you have asked for and can range from pulling your pants and panties down to expose your bottom for a spanking, to being fully naked, bound with your legs spread wide.

I will always respect your predetermined limits. I will discuss those  with you to ensure I can provide you with a rewarding experience within your boundaries. It is very important that you communicate with me throughout your session and I will encourage that by regularly checking in with you and asking you how you are doing.

For repeat clients, the amount of exposure or nudity will vary from one session to the next depending on the services you request. No matter what, if you need to stop the session you can use your safe word to protect yourself.

Submitting to someone puts you in an emotionally and sexually vulnerable position. So that I can safeguard your well-being, you must give me feedback on your emotional and physical state throughout your session.

I will check in with you periodically during the session. You must be open and totally honest with me, even if you are embarrassed or shy, humiliated or ashamed. I cannot work with a submissive who cannot talk to me at all because that is not safe for you. I recognize that it might be difficult and we will work through that. I simply need you to be willing to make the effort and you will get better at it over time.

Likewise, with painful activities such as spanking, flogging, clamps, and so on, I need you to be vocal or expressive so that I can gauge how the pain is affecting you. Everyone is unique and has different thresholds so I cannot compare your reaction to anyone else's. 

If you become a repeat client, I will be able to learn about your body and your unique verbal and non-verbal responses to stimuli and orders. You can expect subsequent sessions to become even more fulfilling and enjoyable as I dial you in.

To be clear, it is illegal for me to touch your breasts, genitals or ass in a "lewd" way in order to sexually gratify you (or myself) so that will not happen during your session.

The services I offer are intimate by definition, but I will only touch you with the intent to inflict sensations that bring you non-sexual pleasure or relief for your anxiety, worries, or unfulfilled desires. Examples include causing you pain or soothing of your pain, both of which might happen anywhere on your body depending on what you signed up for and within your stated boundaries.

Having said that, sexual arousal is a not-uncommon  side-effect of my techniques even though it is unintended. You cannot always control your body's reactions. Do not be alarmed; it is an unintended part of your body's and your mind's natural reaction to the sensations and emotions that  you are experiencing.

If at any point you feel uncomfortable with what you are experiencing then be sure to tell me (if you are emotionally able to) or use your safe word to stop the session. Likewise, I will use my experience and skills to keep an eye on your comfort level and emotional state, and I will help you articulate anything you need.

You may not relax your predetermined hard limits in the middle of a session to let me go further with you than you the limits you set before the session. This is for your safety. Sessions often become intense, especially if you have been seeing me regularly. Pain can release endorphins and other hormones in your body which can alter your brains's decision-making capabilities. Likewise, you might inadvertently become sexually aroused (see above) and that can affect your judgement.

I cannot let you make decisions to "go further" while you are in an altered mental state. You may change your hard limits for future sessions, but not for the currently-in-progress session.

On the other hand you may impose stricter hard limits in the middle of a session if you change your mind about how far you feel you are ready to go. Speak up and let me know and we will gently discuss it.

Sessions can be emotionally intense and it is common for subs to experience big emotions.

Ideally, between my experience and our mutual in-session communication, your emotions will not spill over into a full-blown panic attack but of course, sometimes one happens anyway. It might come on because of your emotional or mental state, unrelated stress or events that are happening in your life, where you are in your menstrual cycle, or even whether you have eaten food that day or not.

Rest assured, I will help you navigate anything that comes up. Whether you need comforting or some space or even to leave, there will be no judgement on my part. I am here to support you on your journey of discovery and sometimes these reactions are part of it.

If you have a history of panic attacks or anxiety, be sure to let me know so that I can keep an eye out for you.

Crying is natural and your body's way of releasing tension. You should let it out if it comes.

Note that crying is not a way to get me to stop doing whatever I happen to be doing to you at that moment (spanking, and so on). Neither is screaming or saying "Stop!" or "No!" or anything else. That is what your safe word is for.

So I encourage you to let your feelings out. That is what you're there for.

Every submissive reacts differently. Some people are screamers, some are stubbornly stoic.

You do you, but please be aware that it is beneficial to be at least somewhat expressive during your session, while not over-reacting. Some girls will scream bloody murder after a few moderate smacks on their ass. That does not help me gauge what you can actually handle so you would be doing yourself a disservice by being excessively dramatic.

Likewise, if you make no reaction at all, I will not be able to push you very far because I will not have any way of determining how I am affecting you.

My advice is to find a middle ground but most importantly, be consistent. If you scream to high heaven one day but do not make a sound the next, then I am going to have a hard time figuring you out which means you will not have the best experience.

One final note: the studio is in a condominium building so we do have to limit the volume of screams to a certain extent. I keep the windows and doors closed during sessions, but we still have to take the neighbors into consideration. I appreciate your understanding.

No, pictures and videos are not allowed during sessions without advance arrangement. See the Mutual Discretion page for details.