Safety First

Your Safety

Don't meet a stranger (myself included) without a safety plan especially for a service during which you are physically, emotionally or sexually vulnerable.

For your safety and comfort, I encourage you to tell someone where you are going, at least for your first session. This is especially important to me because the majority of my clients are female and I do not want you forming unsafe future habits just because it works out fine with me.

I recommend that you set up a safety call with a trusted friend or family member for shortly after the scheduled ending time of your session. You can do this without revealing the nature of our appointment if you wish to keep that private.

For example, you can tell a trusted friend the general area where you are going (you will have the location in advance) and to call or text you if you have not called them by a certain time. If you need to keep the specifics a secret, simply make plans to meet your friend afterward without telling them what you're doing.

You should also share your location with an app like Apple's Find My Friends so they can come looking for you if you do not contact them when you are supposed to.

Because sessions might run longer than expected, give yourself some leeway (30-60 minutes). If you have a safety call set up, be sure to tell me about it when you arrive for your session (you do not need to provide me with the person's name or phone number) so that I can help you to not forget. 

Your safety and protection is my number one priority. Please take care of yourself and always be safe.

Be sure to also read the Session Rules page for more information directed at your emotional and physical safety within the context of your session.

My Safety

Being a professional dominant carries significant risk for me because it is adjacent to sex work. Most cops, judges, district attorneys and so on have no real understanding of what we are doing and those misconceptions can lead to legal jeopardy for me.

Therefore, I have a few rules or requirements to protect myself so that I can continue offering my services to you and the Ferule Institute community:

1. You must provide valid, legal identification.
2. You must provide verifiable employment or school information. This is as simple as a current LinkedIn profile or a school I.D. If you don't work and are not in school, let me know and we'll agree on an alternative means.
3. You must sign the non-disclosure form before your first session which simply prohibits you from divulging any personally-identifiable information about me or the studio's location without my express written permission. It does not prohibit you from sharing your session experience with others, posting about it online or on your socials, etc. Your life is yours to share.
4. You must sign a liability waiver indemnifying me from liability for any injuries you might sustain while participating in consensual BDSM activities. This is the same type of waiver you would sign to go someplace like a trampoline park and so on. 

These simple rules are meant to protect me. Be sure to read the Mutual Discretion and Privacy page for additional information.