About Me
I bring your deepest desires to life
Who i am Physically
Physically I am an intellectual, not a jock (although I used to run marathons). I am 5'11" and in good physical shape. I shave my head and usually have a closely-trimmed greying beard. People tell me my eyes are the most intimidating thing about me. Take that as you will.
I am not your stereotypical dominant. If you found me through an escorts or personals site like FetLife, then you know the type of skeezy men that are out there trolling for hookups and saying what they know you want to hear. I am honest and direct. You will do more of the talking than I will.
In other words, I'm very much your average midlife father type. I do not (usually) wear leather chaps and vest to our sessions. I look like an older friend who might be meeting you for coffee to catch up.
It's nerve-wracking enough for women who are paying for intimate hands-on services with someone like me. I aim to make you comfortable (at least until you're not because you're getting your bottom smacked) and I dress and act accordingly.
Who I am Intellectually
Power is at the root of every relationship, whether in a couple, between colleagues or your boss at work, or even in a store when you are buying something from a clerk. Power is almost never equal; someone has more (or less) than you. It is also not constant; power can shift back and forth, especially in a relationship depending on circumstances and the issue at hand.
That power imbalance and the resulting interpersonal dynamic has fascinated me since I was a child. Ultimately it led me to explore "S&M," or sadomasochism when I was in college because I found the idea of someone (consensually) taking or having power over someone else's body and sexuality to be intensely exciting and arousing.
I sought out like-minded people for my friendships and relationships. Being kinky is as much a part of who I am as my green eyes are a part of my face. I have spent decades practicing and I am continuously observing and learning from everyone I play or work with.
There are two basic elements in BDSM: Bondage and Discipline, and Sasdism and Masochism or sadomasochism. The B&D side is more about the power exchange and your emotional responses to vulnerability, while the S&M side is more about the physical sensations of pain and the pleasure that many people derive from receiving or giving pain to another.
Pleasure and pain are two sides of the same biological coin and everyone experiences them in their own way. It's fun to explore how the two sides of the pleasure/pain coin, as well as the two sides of BDSM intersect within each individual person.
Many of my female clients crave an opportunity to let go and have all the attention on them for once, with no boyfriend, partner or spouse demanding X, Y, or Z. No kids to drive to soccer practice or toddlers crying for food or playtime. No power-trip mind games and no decisions to make, even if for just a while.
Submit to my will and I'll use spanking therapy, submission, bondage and other techniques to allow you to just... let go for an hour or two. It is an incredibly freeing experience.
Where I really excel is on the power exchange / disciplinary side of things. I have spent decades listening to and playing with submissives. You might find yourself opening up and sharing with me your deepest or most embarrassing secrets while we explore your body's and your mind's limits.
Submitting to someone is one of the most intimate, vulnerable things a person can do, especially for women. I work hard to earn your trust as you take this journey with me.
One last, vey important thing: I take aftercare to a level that a Jewish mother would appreciate. It is important to bring you back down to reality at the end of a session, to make sure you are comforted and emotionally okay before releasing you back to your real world pressures. I take care of my subs from beginning to end.