Limits and Boundaries

My Limits

There are certain acts or activities that I do not do for a number of different reasons.

• I might believe they are unsafe.
• I might not be experienced with the activity.
• It might be illegal
• It might not be consensual (typically involving third-parties or bystanders)
• I might just think it's gross (for me) and I don't want to do it.

I do not do the following:

• Anything that is illegal
• Blood or cutting
• Piercing
• Choking or strangulation that cuts off your air supply, including hanging
• Excessively-tight or extended bondage that cuts off your blood circulation
• Illicit or recreational drugs or alcohol before or during a session
• Anything that can leave permanent marks, scars, or unintended damage to your body
• Branding
• Scat or vomit
• Female or male urethral play (probe insertion, etc)
• Ball busting or vaginal kicks

Your Limits

Your limits and boundaries are up to you. We will discuss or review your hard limits before every session, even if I have seen you many times before.

The Client Application asks questions about what you think your hard limits are. Do not say you will do something because you think I want you to, or because you think I will be more likely to accept you as a client.

You may change your limits before a session starts but not after a session has commenced. You will have to wait until your next session if you change your mind. This is for your safety, as you might become intensely excited or aroused by what we are doing during your session, and you might want to go further with something which you will regret when you come down.

Be honest! I don't care what your limits are; I just need to know what they are, so that I do not hurt you physically or emotionally. If you are not honest about them, then I won't have any idea that you're going through something. It would be like whipping you while I am blindfolded with ear plugs in. So be honest or you can be hurt and neither of us want that.

Think also about any emotional issues you have, and how they might affect your play. For example, physical or sexual abuse survivors carry those experiences with them. BDSM, and submission in particular, can be a way to take control of strong emotional trauma, but we do not want to stumble into it by accident. So tell me about your past experiences, tell me what is going on with you now, and then keep telling me as we move forward together.

Keep in mind, I am not a therapist and even healthy BDSM is not a substitute for counseling. (Unhealthy or unsafe BDSM always makes emotional issues worse. Please play safely with competent, experienced partners.)